Gays Being Gays

Okay, I don't think I am a party popper, but I hate how the gay community is cornering themselves into an alcove where diversity is less encouraged and we actually 'have' to fit into a role that is 'expected' of us. What exactly does that even mean? Many of us would have already known by now; that gay people can be one of the most shallow, materialistic, judgmental and biased people you can ever know. And if we want people to see us for who we are, respect us and accept us for our entire self, we cannot keep going down this broken path.

1. Gays do not have to talk about gay stuff. What is that anyway? Hot guys? I'm sorry, but that belongs to girls too. Fashion? Ditto. Art? There are plenty of heteronormative creatives around. Yes, I know we are already so stifled to talking about these topics with ordinary people (sometimes because we refuse to be out to them, and that is acceptable, but sometimes also because we do not want to cause them any discomfort, and that is acceptable too), but we can talk about so many other stuff. Limiting ourselves will bring ourselves to shallow waters, instead of exploring the deep blue sea.

2. Gays need to stop labeling. Yes it helps a little (stereotyping is the brain's response to simplify the environment around them so that less mental processes are used), but we should be the most accepting individuals, most responsive and open to diversity and differences, more engaging in various fields and subject matter, and in all, more human. There is no set rule. And stop expecting the same of your partners, embrace their differences and their uniqueness.

At this point I realised that my other points aren't valid (point 1 makes it barely, as it skims on the issue of depth mostly). Everyone has the right to decide what kind of a life they want to live (although psychologists and anthropologists will argue that their decisions have actually already been set the moment they gain preconceptions of what it really means). You can choose to be gay however you want to be, even if it falls on a very steep-centred normal 'tower' curve.

Sigh.

Please people. Show some depth. And to those who are, stop being asses (the idiot type, not the bottoms).

Peace out.

This is for Yesterday XCIII - The Danger Of Being Indispensable

Took yesterday off, because I wasn't feeling well. But my bosses have been calling me non stop from morning till evening to get me to settle stuff at home. Do they even know the meaning of needing rest? That said and done, I feel a little proud that I'm such an important part of their business already, but I don't like being indispensable. I believe that you should always be more valuable than the position you are in (not underpaid, mind you, just more valuable), not being the perfect fit, because if you are a perfect fit, they'll keep you there forever.

Hope health comes back to me soon, and the weather becomes more forgiving. Already skipping two days of gym.

I gained another 3-4 kg! The weighing scale at home is a little wonky, but I should have gained at least 2 kg in one month! :)

Emergency Measures

I was spending almost the entire day at the client side and the weather has been crazy. When I got home, I was already half sick (headaches, sore throats, aching all over not just from gym). I popped into bed immediately and before I know it, I'm waking at 11.30pm feeling totally wide awake.

And I thought I could surprise my Bestie today for her birthday.

Happy birthday you! Your trifle is doing well!

Making Custard is Like Building Muscles

You start with so much, but after working on it for freaking long, you get smooth, creamy, yumminess that just gets firmer with time.

So good.

And I'm so tired now. What a tiring Monday.

10003

I still have no clue who is coming to read my blog, seriously. I have been bad to my readers with my horribly inconsistent blog posts and topics, and my severe lack of pictures or art, most of which I do steal from the web with much self restraint. However, I'll take any opportunity to celebrate. Weeeee!

Ate so much fast food today, it's not even funny. This weekend is also so tiring. No rest for the wicked indeed.

The Idealist DiIlemma

Pick one:

1. You make the least money, but the world becomes more sustainable and adaptive to new changes and problems are never allowed to get out of hand or reoccur.
2. You make an average amount, but the world becomes functional at the current stage and (seemingly) foreseeable future.
3. You make the most money, all solutions are one off and require more input and resources to function if they are needed again.

This is a hard decision for those who live on the dangerous boundaries of the ideal utopia (which, when conceptualised by our flawed selves are only a fraction of the actual absolute utopia) and the literal reality.

However, how many people actually realise that there is only so much shit that the world can take before we actually have to clean after ourselves.

Sigh, it sucks to see the Matrix at times.

Have a great weekend!

This is for Yesterday XCII - Unstated Job Scopes

Mine includes taking care of my bosses' health and taking them to the clinic when necessary. Also, giving them health advice and lifestyle recommendations.

I should so put all of that in my resume.